‘They were all outraged’: After years of mistreatment from his family 17-year-old cuts off his help to entitled half-siblings, gets told to move out ASAP

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Sep 20, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

Don't you sometimes wish everyone would live by that one sentence from Lilo & Stitch –  'Ohana means family. Family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten'? Life would be much better if people treated their family members like the beloved Disney movie and fought for one another no matter what.

I am sure the kid who wrote this Reddit story would have loved for his family to fight for him and show him that they care, but sadly, that is not the case. OP (original poster) is only 17 years old, and he is already dreaming of the moment he moves out of his family home. Not because he wants independence, but because he cannot stand how his mother, step-father, and half-siblings treat him. For some reason, they all decided that he was the black sheep of the family, and they did not pass on the opportunity to tell him so whenever they could. Hopefully, he won't have to endure it for much longer…

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    "You need to get out of there" ☐ THIS WAY UP WITH CARE
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    AITA for telling my "family" that it's not my job to help my half siblings or any of them?
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    I'm (17m) not sure how old I was when my mom met her husband. Maybe like 1 or something. 3 at most. But he's in all my early memories. He was always eager to tell me I wasn't his kid too.
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    And mom was quick to tell me to shut up if I got sad he wasn't including me because she said she didn't want her biggest mistake (me) costing her the
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    most important person in her life (him). My moms parents are the only actual extended bio family I know and they hate me. Not sure why. I always felt it. Guess it's my fault I was born.
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    Her husband's family never include me, leave me out of all things "family" related. I don't get gifts for Christmas or birthdays, I'm not called a grandson, nephew or cousin. They never
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    show up for my birthdays or anything or invite me to the birthday parties. If my "parents" are invited then I'm there but I'm not allowed to play with the other kids. My half siblings are allowed to even with the much older kids.
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    I have four half siblings ages 12, 10, 8 and 5. They are treated so differently to me. And they treat me like just like the rest of the "family". I tried really hard to be close to them for years. I
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    hoped someone would love me back. But they repeat the stuff. they hear their dad or someone else in their family say about me not being family. They said just because my dad didn't want me
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    doesn't mean they need to (something both my mom and their dad have said). They even say mom wishes she didn't have me. Even when they were starting to say that stuff I'd help with them or help them directly
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    because I just wanted someone, you know. But they were always saying I wasn't their real brother. They have dropped me off at friends houses and left me way later than I was supposed to be
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    there. Which caused issues with friends parents who'd ring my mom or her husband and I'd hear fights about being stuck with me. A few times mom tried to get people to take me overnight or
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    for the whole weekend. Then I was a burden to these other families. It sed. I always had so much anxiety around going to a party or something for that reason and when I was younger a
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    lot of parents stopped letting their kids invite me to parties because I was the kid nobody ever came back for. It's been maybe 5 months of me just focusing on me (working,
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    saving, looking at ways for me to move out once I'm 18) and not helping them and now I'm getting for that. We were at my mom's ILs house and they were complaining that I didn't
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    offer to plate food for the 5 year old or offer to walk the 10 year old to the store for stuff she wanted. Or how I don't help around the house with them anymore. I told them it's not my
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    job to help my half siblings or any of them. I told them to figure it out for themselves. They were all pretty outraged and accused me of being a disrespectful AITA?
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    1-55 EsmeWeatherwax7a 20h ago Certified Proctologist [20] I mean, they have established that no matter what you do, they are going to treat you like Therefore there is absolutely no down side to doing what you are doing. If anyone had ever been kind
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    to you, even a little, then the threat of losing that might feel so scary that you complied. But no, they had to go for maximum cruelty all the time. You are doing the right thing by taking care of yourself. Once you
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    get out of this h_"'scape, you'll be able to establish relationships and find people who care about you. The only thing to keep in mind is what you will do if they kick you out before you are 18. I'd make sure that's a priority in your planning right now.
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    Good luck to you. I'm sorry you are related to such monsters. You are NTA.
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    Expensive-Orchid9752 OP • 20h ago I'm saving like crazy so if they do kick me out before I turn 18 I'll at least have money to help me get through it. Not sure they'd go that far just because I feel like they won't want more questions being asked
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    again (like when I was younger and got dumped at other people's houses). But I always sorta knew they'd expect me to leave on my 18th birthday and not a day after.
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    Agreeable-Book-7018 20h ago Enthusiast [5] NTA. Tell them they aren't your family so you don't need to help them. It's their family's job to help them and they've made it clear you aren't family. You are 17 do you have anyone you can stay with?
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    Expensive-Orchid9752 OP 20h ago I don't have anyone else I can stay with.
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    wibblewobblej • 20h ago NTA, and good luck for your future. Keep saving, and keeping that money away from them. Don't even let them know you have savings. Do you have a game plan for the next year/5 years? If you can get into a trade, you can learn while being paid.
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    I'm sorry your family has treated you this way. You don't deserve it, and you definitely don't owe them anything. If you're comfortable doing it, ask them why you have to do anything for your half siblings who don't even recognise you as a brother, or help in a house where you feel unwanted. Adults should NEVER treat their kids like this.
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    Expensive-Orchid9752 OP 20h ago I don't have a solid plan yet. I'm not sure what the most realistic will be for me. But I'm working on figuring that stuff out. I have a job right now. I am looking at trade school, the military, job corps and even apprenticeships. I
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    also looked to see if it would be more realistic to jump around job to job and find a new place where I might get it easier. So far I at least have some money if I end up with few options. I wouldn't be comfortable asking them. Though a part of me would love to demand answers. But I know I won't get them.
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    Jesiplayssims 20h ago Get all your paperwork together and put it in a safe place (bank deposit box?). Read books on Adulting to prepare to leave. Make sure no one has access to your money, but you. Look at your birth certificate and Google paternal family (maybe do an
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    ancestry test?) Get your plans in place for when you turn 18. College or Trades school?- apply grants and scholarships. Work?- join a company that will help pay for your education towards higher levels. Home- consider renting a room from a friend's family
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    or roommate situation with friends. Move out and NC with your maternal side. This is your time to begin creating your found family. NTA
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    Expensive-Orchid9752 OP • 20h ago There's no father on my birth certificate. Just my mom's name. I don't even know the name of my father. Not sure if my mom really knows who he is. They hate him for leaving me with her but maybe it's just
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    rando who doesn't know. I need to save right now and buying an Ancestry kit wouldn't be the best move. Plus I could see someone intercepting it and destroying it just to make life more miserable for me. Still working on the plan for once I leave but I'll have money saved at least.
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